SECTION FIVE:-- Bondage
Bondage is a tool used by the Dom to restrict
the movement of, or to immobilize the sub.
Binding is normally used for correction,
but can be used for pleasure,
depending on the particular B&D relationship.
During bondage,
the Dom has complete control over the sub,
but this depends on the type of binding used.
There are a variety of restraints
you can purchase at your local adult bookstore,
or through catalogs.
Each one has its own use and purpose.
Regardless of the style of restraint,
they should all be somewhat
comfortable to wear but restrictive,
and should not cut off blood circulation.
If the sub is extremely uncomfortable,
they will have attention on their body
and not fully on the Dom.
During bondage,
the Dom has almost complete control of the sub’s body,
and can use the time for
instruction, punishment, teasing,
or can bring the sub to orgasm
at the Dom’s wishes.
In order to be bound,
there has to be a deep level of trust
by the sub for the Dom.
It is at this time more than any other
that the Dom needs to be very perceptive
of the cues the sub will give.
When a sub is bound, the chance
for injury jumps drastically,
and the sub is not in a position
to defend or assist herself.
It is an act of total submission
to allow yourself to be bound,
and the sub is trusting the Dom
to do the right thing.
Therefore,the Dom must be in complete control
of himself while handling a bound sub.
Drinking or taking drugs
before bondage is not recommended.
Ropes..
Rope bondage is the most common.
This includes rope, scarves, neckties, belts,
or any other multi-purpose item used to restrain the sub.
Usually, the hands are bound to each other,
but they can be bound to the thighs, waist,
behind the back, or above the head.
The sub can also be bound to another
object such as a chair, shower curtain rod,
hook in the ceiling,
and many other places where you can tie
off a rope.
The feet can also be bound together, or apart.
Care must be taken with rope.
It is very easy to cut off circulation,
or cause rope burns.
Use a soft,large diameter rope,
such as nautical rope.
Check your sub frequently.
The more the sub struggles, the
tighter the rope becomes.
Straps..
Normally, these are special items
made of nylon webbing or leather.
These are items that go a step
beyond mere binding of hands or feet.
They are much more difficult to get out of,
and are more restrictive.
One example is a setup that goes around the neck
and waist, and binds both hands closely
behind the back of the sub.
Used with ankle restraints,
the sub is almost completely immobilized.
Some strap items bind the wrists to the thighs,
or to the ankles.
Strap bondage items tend to be for a single purpose.
Cuffs..
Cuffs are mainly used for wrist
and arm restraint.
When referring to leg and ankle restraint,
they are normally called shackles.
They can be made from many different materials,
from nylon with Velcro closings,
to leather, to metal.
Care must be taken in using cuffs
since a tight fit can cut off circulation.
Cuffs can be used to bind the hands
to the sub’s waist, ankles, thighs,
or to other objects.
Usually, when hand or thumbcuffs are not used,
the cuff is a specialized item
that binds an extremity to another object,
one or two at a time.
Chains..
Since chains can cause injury to the skin,
they are normally used to support cuffs,
or to hold up a suspension device.
However, some Doms use chain directly on the skin
because it will not tighten accidentally.
Choose a smooth, finished chain,
and use quick- release clasps.
Suspension Devices..
Suspension devices are used to raise the sub
off the floor.
These devices are more advanced, and
are best left alone if you are inexperienced.
Specialty Items..
These items include padded boards,
gymnastic horses, racks, crosses, benches,
stocks, and many other items.
These items are expensive and normally
take up large amounts of space.
Before purchasing these,
make sure you have room for them in your home.
They are also advanced bondage items.
For the beginner,
I would suggest using what you have in the house.
the dining room table, chairs,
shower curtain rods,
placing a hook above the door frame,
or a four poster bed work
very well for training purposes.
A Dom does not need a fully equipped dungeon
to properly train a submissive.
As you acquire more
specialized bondage items over time,
remember to inspect the item carefully
before placing it on your sub.
If the item is frayed, cut, or has broken clasps,
throw it away.
It is dangerous to use damaged items.
At best,
it is an unneccessary interruption of play.
At worst,
your sub could be injured.
These are the Dom’s tools.
Keep them in working order.
SECTION SIX:-- Training Items
There are many types of training items.
Usually, they are used for punishment,
but, when used gently,
can be very erotic.
These items should serve no other purpose
than for the administration of discipline.
They are symbols of
power and authority
for the Dom.
They must be treated with care and respect.
Do not wield an item
unless you are prepared to use it.
These items are more than just another tool.
They should instill awe in the sub, and effect an immediate change in their attitude. They are tangible
evidence of the Dom’s role as the administrator of justice to the sub. Therefore, they should not be
overused or misused.
Belts can be used to discipline the sub.
Folded in half,
they are very effective for spanking.
It is easy to get out of control with a belt,
though, inflicting more pain than is necessary.
Of course, the intensity of
pain is at the discretion of the couple.
Riding crops are also very effective.
The head of the crop,
run up the inside of the sub’s thighs,
is very erotic,
and a strike from the crop
is quite impinging on the sub.
Floggers are items that have many long thin straps
attached to a handle.
They can actually break the skin if wielded
too strongly, but with a light or medium touch,
can get your sub’s attention quickly.
They cover a larger area of skin,
giving many defined areas of pain.
Paddles come in all shapes and sizes.
They are used for spanking large areas.
These items should be used
for higher gradients of discipline,
since they do cause
higher degrees of pain than the flat of your palm,
and can cause injury if not used with caution.
An inexperienced Dom should use the item
on Himself before using them on the sub.
This way, the Dom will get an accurate estimate
on the amount of force needed with each item
to produce the desired effect.
There are also items like gags, ball gags,
and face masks.
I do not suggest that the beginner utilize
those items.
When gagged, the sub will have a difficult time
getting a safeword out,
and may be injured inadvertently.
SECTION SEVEN:-- Training Techniques
Respect for the sub is very important
in this phase.
As a Dom, you are attempting to bring out the
best in your sub,
not break her spirit and turn her into a robot.
Even in training,
there are certain guidelines that are useful.
1.Never strike a sub in the face.
A light to medium open-hand slap is normally sufficient
to handle the job.
You can also place your hands
on the sub’s face to make them look at you.
2.Never break skin on purpose.
If you do,
handle it immediately after punishment is finished.
Soothe the scrapes with lotion,
talking softly and gently to your sub.
3.Never leave a bound sub unattended.
Accidents can happen,
and the sub is in no position to assist themselves.
4.Never discipline in anger.
That has been covered earlier.
5.Never discipline under the influence
of drugs or alcohol.
This goes for the sub as well as the Dom.
6.Always explain why the discipline is occurring
to the sub.
Discipline must occur for a specific reason.
To arbitrarily discipline a sub
breaks down her trust in the Dom.
7.The punishment should fit the offense.
8.Discipline should always
be followed with tenderness and love.
The infraction has been dealt with,
and is in the past.
As a Dom,
do not hold a grudge against the sub.
Allow the sub to be forgiven.
Reward is also very important.
Correct actions must be rewarded by the Dom,
otherwise the sub has no incentive
to obey the Dom’s instructions.
You may give Your slave a single flower,
a note left on the computer,
or a loving caress.
The reward will depend on the sub
and the action which pleases the Dom.
Once in a while,
a Dom will find a sub to whom a spanking is a reward.
This is why the Dom must know the sub, totally.
Every sub is different,
just as every Dom is different.
It is very difficult
to give step-by-step instructions
on how to discipline or reward a particular sub.
Some subs are totally submissive,
others have a very strong will.
In any case, the discipline is for correction,
the reward is for compliance.
If more correction is needed,
do not hesitate in escalating your actions.
Use the amount of correction necessary
to punish the infraction.
Do not threaten punishment.
Apply it.
The sub will respect the Dom to a greater degree.
If the sub complies above and beyond what you expected,
reward her accordingly.
Remember, the strength of the Dom
lies in his love for the sub.
