The DI Decision
The decision to use DI should not be taken lightly, and you should be prepared and have worked through any issues you have. This is truly a decision that will not only affect the rest of your life, but the life of a child as well.
Most couples*, when contemplating parenthood, figure all they have to do is "what comes naturally" and sooner or later they will be blessed with a little bundle of joy. Unfortunately, that is not the reality for about 7% of couples.
In the USA alone, according to the National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS), the number of women using infertility services was 9.3 million (1995). The reasons for a couple's infertility varies. However, infertility is caused by a male factor in approximately 20%-30% of cases. In these instances, DI (Donor Insemination) is an options that many couples consider.
DI is widely practiced throughout the world. The pregnancy rate is high: 70 to 80% of couples who choose DI eventually have a child by this method. 30,000 to 50,000 babies are conceived each year in North America with the help of DI.
DI offers a range of benefits to couples:
The dilemmas of DI
We have a beautiful son who was conceived with the help of DI. As the parent of a child conceived through DI, I understand the challenges and choices couples turning to DI face. Many of the clinics that offer DI also offer counseling sessions prior to donor selection and the inseminations. If your doctor or clinic does not have this, it is a good idea to seek some counseling on your own.
My husband is every bit our sons father -- we believe that biology does not make a family -- love does. One of our favorite quotes is that "Almost anyone can be a father, but it takes a special man to be a daddy".
It is our hope that society will become more accepting of this option to family building that has been in practice for over 100 years so that our son may be proud of his origins -- he truly was conceived out of love.
* Although this article focusses on married couples since that is where my experience comes from, many of the issues are the same for single women or lesbians who turn to DI.