Traditions for Marriage
The Primary Purpose Is To Express God's Love
1. Our common welfare should come first. A healthy relationship depends upon unity.
2. For our family purpose, there is but one authority, a loving God as he may express himself in our family consicience. Each partner is God's trusted servant.
3.The basic requirement for a good marriage is a mutual desire to make it work.
4. Each partner should remain autonomous except in matters affecting the other partner, the family, or society as a whole.
5. Each marriage has but one primary purpose~to serve as an expression of God's love.
6. A partner ought not be overly supportive spiritually, emotionally, or physically to the marriage, lest problems of ego gratification divert him or her from the primary purpose.
7. Each partner ought to strive to be fully sef-supporting spiritually, emotionally and physically.
8. Our marriage should remain forever a free, giving relationship, one to the other.
9. A relationship should avoid heated controversy.
10. A family should be pliable in its organizaton, but our group conscience may appoint certain persons responsible to serve various functions.
11.Each partner best converys his or her believs and philosophy by attraction rather than promotion. Anonymity is a valuable asset to the marriage.
12. Selflessness is a spiritual foundation of our way of life as marriage partners, or friends, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities, and the principle is unselfishness.
Paraphrased from The Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous (short form)