To all those Mom's who are not sure they are making a difference...An interesting story worth reading....
There is a story from years ago of an elementary teacher. Her name was Mrs. Thompson. And as she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. But that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard. Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he didn't play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. And Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.
At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review
each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last.
However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.
1. Teddy's first grade teacher wrote,
"Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and
has good manners... he is a joy to be around."
2. His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy
is an excellent student, well-liked by his classmates, but he is troubled
because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."
3. His third grade teacher wrote, "His
mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best but his father
doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some
steps aren't taken."
4. Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote,
"Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show
much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and sometimes
sleeps in class."
By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself.
She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped
in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's.
His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got
from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle
of the other presents.Some of the children started to laugh when
she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing and a bottle
that was one quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children's
laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on,
and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed
after school that day just long enough to say, Mrs. Thompson, today you
smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left, she cried for
at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, and
writing, and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children.
Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked
with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged
him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become
one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she
would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's
pets." A year later,
she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was
still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.
Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had in his whole life.
Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This
time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to
go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the
best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his
name was a little longer. The letter was signed, "Theodore F.
Stoddard, M.D." The story doesn't end there. You see, there was yet
another letter that spring. Teddy said he'd met this girl and was
going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple
of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in
the place at the wedding that was usually reserved for the mother of the
groom. Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore
that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. And she made sure
she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on
their last Christmas together. They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard
whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear,
"Thank you, Mrs. Thompson, for believing in me. Thank you
so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a
difference."
Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said,
"Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that
I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until
I met you."