Grand Parents do you anguish over not seeing your grand
children after a divorce or paternity case?
Do you think that in most cases that there should be
constructive resolutions so that the children can be with and both of their
parents as much as possible?
In most cases the children Love Mom and Dad and why shouldn't
that be the primary focus in these divorces and paternity cases?
Can any one be an effective parent in four days a mouth?
Is that enough time with that parent?
If that parent should die, and the memories and lessons
learned from that parent in only 4 days a month, is this enough for the
child to last a life time?
In most cases does that seem fair to the child? Is the
cup half full or half empty?
Do you think that the excessive delays in court, alienate
the children from one parent and extended family members?
Are the children entitled to know their full heritage
in most cases?
Are you a Judge, Attorney, case worker or government
official who is some times upset with how the present laws discourage equal
parenting for the children? Do you also just feel like telling some of
these parents to grow up for the benefit of their children? Do you feel
as if you are fighting fires but are only able to run from one fire to
the other with no time to accomplish what should be don in most of these
cases?
Is it fair to the children who just want to love Mom
and Dad?
Of all age groups, children are the most resilient and
adaptable. So who is it really harder on in joint parenting, the children
or the parents?
Who ever said parenting is easy?
How many times do the so called experts bother to ask
the children if they love both their parents and want to see each of them
as much possible?
Presently we have two things that are at the root of
these tragedies. One is called the "Tender Age Doctrine" and the other
the implementation of the scoring system, which cover 13 areas of "The
Best Interest of the Children." The first basically says that the child
will go to the mother unless she is proven unfit. The Best interest of
Child categories are used to determine this. Combine the underlining fear
of both parents of losing the right to see their children as much as possible
and the stage is set for all out war.