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It's Ok To Be Transgendered
 
 
 
 

I hope this page will help you and others to avoid the problems myself and others have had. This page is meant to be a resource for the
Transsexual lady.

I am Marcelyn (Marcie) Michelle Nova through and through! And I Love it!

 

 
 

Contents

IT'S OK TO BE TRANSSEXUAL

MARCIE'S BIOGRAPHY

MARCIE'S STATS

MARCIE'S THOUGHTS

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IT'S OK TO BE TRANSSEXUAL

First of all I am a true Physical Transsexual lady even though I can't transition. This page will give you some knowledge of how to address the world from the point of view of Marcie Nova, who by the way is my heroin in a screen play I'm writing. Since I have only been out five or ten times, that is as far as it goes in respect to going out into the world. The important thing is me and my voice pass about 95% of the time. By the way teenage girls are your worst enemy for spotting that you are TS and they are not shy about it either. Anyway I have worked very hard to make it so I pass. It is dangerous in a lot of places if you don't pass. There are those out there that would beat you up or kill you if they spotted you. So be careful. That is why it is very very important for me to pass. Others can tell you more about living out in the world as a women than I can, but I just want you to know that it's ok to be who you are and the way you are. Most of all Be True To Yourself. Be honest with yourself. I have been buying woman's clothing for many years and have some interesting stories about that.

I am Transsexual and that in it self has many connotations. In my view that makes me Bisexual, Transvestite, maybe gay etc. all rapped up in one. The advantage of being transsexual is the if someone accuses you of being gay, you can in all honesty say no I am not. I realize that is a cheap out, but I will take what ever I can get. As they say in Iraq Swartzkoff happens.

So how do I feel about the different labels. Well if you look at the population, it seems that about 20% of the population is gay or one of the so called deviant groups (not heterosexual). So if you ask, is that normal, the answer is yes, 20% is a very large section of the population. Even the same percentages are true in the animal world. Very few groups of people command even that large a percentage of the population other than the heterosexuals. I really don't mind the labels because if we didn't have them what we would be called most likely would not be very nice.

So if for some weird reason you feel Abby normal, your not, your quite normal. The reason I think that cross dressing is not excepted for men is the religious stigma, however it is ok for women and now it's ok for Marcie. In many other countries cross dressing and being one of these groups as listed above is accepted as normal. As you read on you will find out that most people in our group of individuals had their first inklings that they were different from the (normal) heterosexuals at a very early age. Like 5 years old or younger.

It should also be noted that it is not something that is going to go away, even with physiological help which for the true Transsexual won't work, however it can help you self image. Either you is or you aint. Seldom can a person be made into a gay, TS, TV etc. Either you is or you aint. The scientists have now found the physical reason to why there are people of this persuasion, so there you have it. There are reasons for the way you are and you have no control over that, it is a physical condition.

I have run into a lot of people on the WEB that are having (for one reason or another) problems with being TS. A little encouragement. We know now that we can't change who and what we are. It is a known fact that optimists both succeed and survive. Pessimist fail and don't survive. So it is better to be the eternal Optimists. Always remember that there is always a solution to any given problem. If you don't have an answer find one. There are probably several. Another Big one is that if you are depressed and can't get over it, find a doctor that will provide you with medication that will solve that problem. You can't imagine the things you would miss if you were to end your life, if that is being contemplated. There is hope. You can't very well fight the world or seek new ideas if you are depressed. Solve that problem first. Then go back to step 1 be an Optimists. There are a lot of resources for your use and a lot at no cost. Find the ones you need. The WEB is a good place to start. A good chat room to get involved in is the "Pink Room on PHP." You will find a lot of good friends, advice and support there. It is a wonderful place, Trust me on this one. I could ramble on an on but if you need help, if nothing else works contact me at marcienova@gmx.com There are a lot of others out here in the same situation and we are Happy and willing to help.  Let us. Because we don't want the bad guys to win. We like to play the game, we win a lot better. Through education for yourself and the others around you these problems can be solved. You have a lot more resources than you may think. You can also have a wonderful life if you make the right decisions now.
 
 

Why are we like we are, Is there a known reason? Two recent research projects may have discovered these reasons. The first study was in Denmark, and was announced in about the year 1998. A group of scientists discovered that a little organ in your brain called the hypothalamus (BST) is what determines what Mental sex you are and this is where the problem is. If it is the size of the head of a pin you are mentally female. If it is a little over twice that size you are mentally male. After doing several autopsies on TS men and women they found that if the hypothalamus (BST) was the size of that of a woman's for the M to F. In the F to M it was the size of a mans. So the determination was that there is a physical reason for being TS. But what then causes this to happen? It should be noted that this was not a very well done study, However it is one more indication that the problem is physical and with the other studies, both the statistical and the gene study they are supportive. New studies as recent as this year have confirmed the BST hypothalamus is responsible.

When the fetus is between 1 and 2 months old, hormones are introduced to the fetus if it is to be male, if it is to be female no hormones are introduced and the fetus grows to be female. But in the case of the TS male (M to F) the hormones are introduced to the body but not the brain for some reason. In the case of the TS female (F to M) the hormones are only introduce to the brain. The cause of this goes back to the human genes. The second research project that came to light, was the gene project at Reuters University where they were trying to determine the cause of the sexual miss-orientation of the TS group. This was announced on February 18, 1998. They discovered that the TS people had a doubling of the XX and XY gene depending on sex. With the F to M TS the Dax1 or X chromosome was doubled, or XX XX instead of just XX. This made men that would have developed normally, develop female a brain. With the women their SRY or XY Chromosome that should have been XY then doubled to XY XY developed into woman with a male brain. The problem is the brain did not change. So when a TS says they have always felt like someone of the opposite sex they are exactly on the money. It is these genes that cause the Hypothalamus (BST) to develop into the opposite sex and therefor the resultant TS person.
I also feel that there is not only a physical TS but also mental TS. There is little difference between the two nore is one more severe than the other. The difference I think is that the mental TS is a TV that has gone a lot farther than the typical TV. And this is where the difference is. The mental TS still wants to have sexual relations with the same sex as before the transition. Where the physical TS is raised one sex and thought to have and want sex with people opposite their birth sex but the brain is telling them to want sex with people opposite their mental sex. So often the physical TS will be BI-sexual, as a result of the training they grew up with and the mental desires from the sex of the brain. Many don't understand this problem but for the physical TS (which I am sure I am)is in fact natural and as would be expected. At the same time there are many TS that all their lives desire sexual mates the opposite their mental sex only.
I feel that with the older statistical studies, the hypothalamus studies, and the gene studies there is a high probability that the solution has been found. However this is my opinion only. You have to decide if you feel comfortable with these results. I feel that as a whole they are conclusive. Many do not agree with me and that to is OK.
I do hope this helps. A little, knowledge can be a powerful thing.
 

MARCIE'S BIOGRAPHY

It all started on a dark and stormy night, the rain was coming down in sheets and the wind was howling like a banshee. No not really. I was about 4 when I first remember wanting to wear girls clothing. At that age I don't know if it was curiosity or the beginning. I like to think it was the beginning. The problem was that I was already to large for the baby cloths and to small for my mommies clothing. By the age of 7 or 8 I could put on mommies panties and that felt so good. At night I wished that I would wake up the next morning and I would be a girl. I thought that if I wanted it bad enough it would happen and then everything would be all right. It's interesting to note that is a fairy tail and it has never happened and did not happen with me, (well unless you have the operation). To this day it is not alright I'm still a No-Op Transsexual. Anyway, back at the age of 7 or 8. I remember that I would hide the few woman's cloths that I borrowed from the Goodwill box my mommy had from time to time, and put them up in a shelf on the back porch that had a 4" lip on the front of the top shelf, so no one could see inside. I became very good at lying and covering up my escapades.
Even then I really hated lying to anyone.

At the age of about 10 we had a Halloween party at our house and I talked my mother into letting me cross dress to fool the rest of the kids. That was truly a great night. I had one of my mommies green dresses and put on one of her scarf's and with some lipstick and a little padding (very little) no one could guess that I was a boy. That was a wonderful night. With time, I was able to collect some makeup that mommy discarded and some earrings. It was all a wonderful secret. When I could get away with it I would hang out with the girls. I will never forget the wonderful day they wanted me to play house and let me be the mommy.

As I grew up the cloth's moved out to the attic of the garage, and that was my domain. I had a place to sit up there and a few of my woman's cloth's. By then I even had some heels that mom discarded. But still no wigs. My first real outing was when one night I snuck out about 1:00 AM and crossed dressed in some pretty pale blue pedal pushers and a white blouse and bra and put on some flats and a scarf and some lipstick with a light blue jacket and went down the ally behind our house, around the corner and down another block to the little park. I went into the woman's restroom and used the facilities and that was fantastic. For a few moments I was part of the woman 's world. Of coarse no one was around. On the way back I passed an older woman and I was scared to death that she would know I was really a boy. She didn't give me a glance. I went home shaking, dressed back and snuck back into the house. I could hardly sleep that night. I really did enjoy it and it felt sooooo nice.

One day I was crossed dressed in the attic of my garage and my mom and dad came home and of course parked the car in the garage. I couldn't breath. They were talking and never knew that I was up there. I never got caught cross dressing. By then I was seeing girls and like any young boy (as I was taught to be) trying to get into their panties. I was still having a lot of trouble with the morals of the situation thinking that I was a bad person. But like most transgendered people I though that I was giving my sole to the devil, I was a bad person and should be ashamed of the pleasure I derived from cross dressing and being with a man. It took a lot of years for me to learn enough to understand that it is in fact not Abby normal.
 

I just had a thought. If 20% of the population are not heterosexual then that means that 1 out of every 5 of our family members is one of us. Huummmmmmmm I wonder which ones? Oh well.

Until I was 21 things stayed about the same no major events other then joining the military. At 21 I married, and that turned out to be a disaster. My new wife was a poor little rich girl and her parents controlled her. Her parents didn't like me much and I didn't care much for them. A year later the marriage ended as the parents wanted. It was sad because she was a nice lady. But she caught me wearing her bloomers once and I'm sure that was a part of the demise of the marriage. Next I married another girl and that was a disaster for different reasons. That one lasted 6 months. At the age of 27 I married my present wife and after 36 years things are going fairly well.

It was then I discovered the thrift shops. They even had some inexpensive wigs, and things had greatly improved. I thought that if I got married to the right girl the problem would go away. But it didn't. After about two or three years after marriage with my present wife I started collecting cloth's again and late at night I would cross dress. I am night people and my wife is morning people which works out well. If I had a day alone in the house I would spend it in woman's cloth's. I started taking pictures of myself (I am a
photographer) and some of them turned out well. But then I started making another life long commitment and that set many things in concrete. The options closed a little more. As a result of my interests I was becoming well known In the US and Canada. This of course increase the risk of being found out.

We had a crisis as a result of all this and I told my wife about my past. It did not go over well. But we got to a point that I would do my thing and make sure that she was not involved or would not ever see me as Marcie. And this is the way it stands today. Shortly after that I purged all my cloth's. What an expensive mistake. I will never do that again. Like I said earlier if you is, you is, and that will not change no matter how much you wish it would.

In recent months I have gone out on two occasions when my wife was on a business trip. Both times I went to a local bar where there are many cross dressers. It was scary the first time but it felt so nice to just be where I could be Marcie. I just sat there for about an hour and watched the others. It was really a thrill and very relaxing. The next time about a month later I did a much better job of preparation and went to a stage show on a Wednesday night at the same club. I was still scarred stiff but once I got into the club it was so relaxing. I must not have looked that bad because a man about ten years younger than me gave me the eye all night and wanted to meet me and he was not very subtle either. Unfortunately I was to afraid to respond. But what an ego booster. I was in 7th heaven. I have gone out to restaurants and malls dressed from time to time and one time I went with a co-worker that knew Marcie and we went to a nice restaurant and that was fantastic.
 

MARCIE'S STATS

Name: Marcelyn Michelle Nova

Nick Name: Marcie

I am 5'10.5"

I weigh 195 Lb.

I am 63 years old (an old toot) But I look and act much younger.

Fair skinned with gray hair, dyed blond.

I only have to shave every other day and can shave with no shadow. I also don't have an adams apple.

I love long full dresses and usually wear long sleeve blouses.

I wear a 22 dress have a 36" waist and a 42" hips (with padding) and a 46 bust.

I like elevator music and any thing to do with science. And to many hobbies.

I like to sing, play guitar, paint, cook, sew and build stained glass windows.

Most of all I love being Marcie Nova. I like to sing in Marcie's voice as well and now have my own professional recording studio. I have recorded 1 song as Marcie and intend to record more. I am trying to get a sample on the Web site here.

My personality is very mild and soft spoken and I am usually smiling.

I love life.

MARCIE'S THOUGHTS

The clothing I like. My goal is to pass as a women which is not easy. So I am trying to use the tools that I have at my disposal to the best advantage. When I get a chance, I look at other peoples photos and try to find the characteristics that give them away or when they do a good job producing the desired appearance. Most features can be either hidden or camouflaged or the good ones enhanced. Many have feminine features and those should be identified and enhanced. I am lucky in that I don't have an adams apple that shows but I still try to draw attention away from my thick neck by wearing high collars and bring the hair down around the neck and face. My arms and hands are a dead give away so I always wear long sleeve blouses and dresses. Finger nail polish helps some to camouflage the hands drawing the attention away from the hands. I really like the pinks, whites and purples. I also enjoy wearing slacks from time to time. With a little extra padding I build up my lower tummy so it looks slightly fat. This hides the fact that my upper tummy is a little to large. I feel that it's better to look real than try to look like a model. Some of us are not that attractive so we have to do what we can. At the same time this makes the waist look better pre-portioned. When I look for a wig I try to get one that fits around or covers as much of my face as possible. I like bangs with the hair coming as much forward as it is practical. This makes the face look smaller and tends to hide my wide jaw. Since I stand almost 6" tall I try to always wear flat shoes or very low heels. I have found that a good wig makes all the difference in the world as to whether you look like a man trying to cross dress or a real woman. Also cloths make the women. The sharper and softer the clothing the better you will look. Each of us has to find the style that makes us look more female, or the most female looking. If you intend to transition then you can also rely on plastic surgery to further the appearance. If you make the right choices the changes will be minor.

As for makeup I try to stay as close to my natural colors as possible. As for lipstick and fingernails try to always have them match and I like the pinks and lighter shades of reds. I find that if the makeup is softer and comes close to the faces natural colors the overall look is much more realistic and natural.

I do like the lacy blouses when I can find them in the larger sizes. The problem most of us have, is that the larger sized do not have good selections and the designing is not nearly as pretty as the smaller sizes. This is always frustrating and usually means that one has to look longer and at more places to find nice cloths. But I love to shop so this is not a problem. But they are out there. As for skirts I like the longer ones. It is easier to look feminine in the longer skirts. However they are easy to trip on, get caught in the car door and many other things that can be sometimes embarrassing and funny.

I love to wear jewelry, rings, bracelets, necklaces, earrings, anklets and pins. It is also important that the jewelry match the look you are trying to produce. I've discovered a lot in the last few years. I can wear 100% woman's clothing and no one will know if I do it right. To start with I have found that there are many woman's shoes (loafers) that look a lot like men's shoes. There are some woman's slacks that look like men's. I have even found woman's blouses that look like men's dress shirts without darts. many of the shirts I wear ar mole skin and one would think thatg would be a dead give away. But no one seems to notice that they are womens shirts. Wierd! I have been wearing Perfumes now for about 20 years and I don't mean the musky ones. I like wearing Perfumes like Chantilly, Baby Soft, CK and Bride, very female fragrances. There are woman's sox that look like men's, and a camisole with wide straps looks like and undershirt under a dress shirt. You can take chap stick and empty it and put in clear lipstick in place of the contents and no one will ever know. I for the last 12 years worn a fine gold woman's necklaces and bracelet and never been questioned. So there is a lot of things you can do to feel like a woman and still look like a man enough that no one will notice. Only you will know. Of course you can ware anything under your clothing. I've found that if you can find a blush that matches your skin tones you can even wear a little blush. There are also a lot of woman's rings that can be worn without giving yourself away. But remember you have to be careful what and how you wear these things and you have to act sorta Macho to pull it off.

The voice - I found a neet way to get a feminine voice. Try this! Get a couple of helium balloons and a digital recorder. Take in as much helium into you lungs as you can then say a sentence into the recorder. Do this two or three times recording the resultant voice each time. Then duplicate the voice without the helium. After you have mastered that voice then soften it and give a little whispery sound then lower it to just above you natural tone. It should come very close to what you want. Then practice practice and practice some more.

Beauty Tips For Cross Dressing- I found one for your finger nails that is outa site. If you paint your nails with two layers of clear polish and get it up onto the cuticles and then when it is almost set up, tap it lightly with your finger and it will then get dull. Now let it set completely and apply your color. When you go to take the polish off you will take it down past the color and no one will know that you have worn the fingernail polish.

Try getting a manicure some time it's really nice and leaves your nails almost like you have polish on. That is something you can do for yourself. You can also wear toenail polish and no one will ever see.
It's interesting if you act Macho you can get away with murder, I do and have never been questioned. I have been doing a lot of these things for at least 20 years. In conversations with friends they back me up and insist that I am not Gay or TS. If they only knew. *Giggles*

It has been several years since I have updated this site so I thought I would let you know what has been happening in my life. We have added a boy and girl to our little family and they are beautiful kids and smart. They have no idea of my situation. Things got rough at one point about 4 or 5 years ago and the marriage took a few lumps. We were able to work through the issues (My being TS) and she now does not put me down any more because of it. It was hard for her because it attacked her ego. That is still a problem I think but she has accepted the fact that I am TS and that there is little that can be done to change it. I have promised her that I will not transition and that has helped. My wardrobe has advanced and I only have woman's cloths now and dress in woman's clothing 24/7. It is done so I come across as a male for the most part and I seem to get away with it. I have a new mother now and I was able to tell her about me and she had no problem with it and one day we will even go shopping together for women s clothing. My father will never find out because he is a major redneck. Being in woman's clothing 24/7 seems to help a lot for my ego and once in a while I do get a chance to put on a dress or skirt and blouse. I bought a Wedding dress at the Good Will and did some pictures in it and that was wonderful. My idea of vanity pictures I guess. I have always envisioned myself in a wedding dress and it was great with the petticoat that makes the dress go out away from your legs and looks huge. Wearing the vial was fun too with the flowers and satin gloves. I really felt like a bride. That seems to help as well. All in all if you can't transition, then dressing in woman's slacks and shirts even if they zip and button the wrong way does not raise any eyebrows. I get more comments about my very fem. coller pins I wear with my clothing. Oddly enough I do get complements on the shirts from a few women. They like the colors and just say they are beautiful. But never any more then that. I have never had any embarrassing situations ever. So the system I have seems to work and work well. So I would highly advise this approach. Again be true to yourself. If you are truly TS then transision. If you can't then follow my lead.

One thing that is interesting and was embarrassing. As I said earlier when I went to the club and the gentleman was trying to flirt with me, when I left he said hi and unwittingly I did the male nod which really screwed up the overall appearance. Now as I identify these male habits I will try to make sure that those habits are over ridden and replace them with more feminine habits.
Just an interesting note. If I could transition in such a way that I could be the equivalent of a biological woman that had the monthlys and could have babies, I would take all the pain and discomfort in a second. I would give anything to be able to give birth even knowing how much pain is involved.
I hope that knowing more about Marcie will help you have more insight into the problems and challenges you may be faced with.
Good Luck!

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