Ultimate Female
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ThePenisEnvy.com focuses on enhancing your sexual health and
well-being as a man, yet we thought it neglectful not to
acknowledge that most men also find great pleasure in pleasing
their partners. The following is a compilation of tricks and
tools that might help even the most experienced men develop
into a better lover.
Foreplay
Anything that heightens sexual excitement for you and
your partner could be considered foreplay—from kissing and
caressing, to talking dirty and role playing, and everything
in between. Experiment with your partner and find out what
turns her on. Does she like to take a bath together? Read an
erotic story? Play dress up? Remember that women’s bodies take
longer to get fully aroused and need more time than men for
foreplay.
Kissing
Perhaps one of the most exciting and intimate acts of
foreplay is kissing (though kissing alone is also quite
exciting in itself). Start slowly, gently by bringing her lips
to yours. Keep your mouth closed for a bit and sweetly kiss
her mouth, her face and her neck. Take your time and pay
attention to her movements so you can learn what she likes.
When you feel it’s time, open your mouth and draw her in to a
more intimate kiss. Go slowly inserting your tongue in her
mouth and gently sweep it against her tongue and lips. Tease
her with its tip; explore her mouth.
Touching
While kissing you may wonder where to put your hands.
Begin by embracing her, rubbing the small of her back, her
shoulders, her face. Continue to kiss her as you fondle her
breasts through her clothes, playing with her nipples and
cleavage, running your fingers along her curves. Play with
pressures, using light touch and firm pressing when you think
she’ll respond.
Erogenous Zones
Start to remove her clothing, kissing each part of her
body as you expose it. Take time savoring each part of your
body—the longer you allow her to relax and enjoy foreplay the
more ready she will be when and if you have intercourse. Give
special attention to areas like her lips, earlobes, temples,
neck, breasts, nipples, thighs and buttocks as they are
erogenous zones.
Teasing
Women like a confident, slow lover. You can increase
her arousal by teasing her every step of the way—kiss her
slowly, undress her slowly, play with her body and make her
want you to touch her more. Be patient and increase the
intensity of your touch until she begs you for more. Start in
non-erogenous zones and work your way to the sexier bits.
Teasing is especially important as you make your way to
her vagina—nothing’s worse than a man who plunges straight for
the hole. Instead brush her thighs, her neck, her breasts;
tease her by playing with her panties or pubic hair before
touching her sensitive spot.
Arousal
When sexually aroused a woman will go through several
physical changes: her pupils will dilate, her nipples will
harden and (like your penis) the inside and outside of her
vagina will engorge with blood, her clitoris will grow erect
and swollen. The skin of her labia majora and minora may
change to a deeper pink. She’ll begin naturally lubricating
from inside the vagina.
Orgasm
Different women require different types of direct and
indirect vaginal stimulation in order to have an orgasm. Once
stimulate, she will begin to feel the orgasm in the lower area
of her vagina. This area, along with her anal muscles, will
begin to contract involuntarily. Her nipples will be erect and
her vagina will become wetter. As the orgasm ends her vagina
will relax and her vulva will return gradually to its normal
size.
The G-Spot
Women, unlike men, have several areas that affect
orgasm: the clitoris, the vagina and the G-spot. Through
direct stimulation to the G-spot, many women find great
satisfaction during orgasm, though orgasm can be achieved by
clitoral stimulation alone. Few women can climax without
stimulation of the G-spot or clitoris.
The G-Spot is a spongy area of the vagina that shares a
wall near the clitoris. Packed with nerves, this area gives
intensity to orgasms and can be touched by your fingers, penis
or a toy during sex. To find the G-spot, insert one or two
fingers in her vagina and make a “come hither” motion with
your fingers as if you’re calling someone over. The G-spot is
on the front wall of the vaginal canal, several inches deep.
Slide your fingers from side to side; ask your partner to
guide you.
To stimulate the G-spot, kneel between your partner’s
legs and slowly rub her G-spot. Consider rubbing her clitoris
at the same time for added pleasure. For an incredible rush,
you may want to lick her clitoris while stimulating her
G-Spot.
Your partner may also want to lie on her belly and let
you explore her G-spot by putting your fingers, palm down,
inside her vagina. Let her move against your fingers and get
more aroused. Many women like vaginal intercourse from the
rear (or “doggy style”) because the tip of the penis
stimulates the G-spot and, with quick, firm pushing she can
have a deeply satisfying climax.
At times intense G-spot stimulation may cause a woman
to ejaculate a small amount of clear or white fluid—this is
totally natural and shouldn’t be discouraged.
The Clitoris
The clitoris is the most sensitive part of a woman’s
anatomy, and is located where the labia minora (or smaller
lips on the vulva) meet. It feels like a small button of flesh
and becomes swollen when aroused. If you have trouble finding
it, gently feel or lick around the vulva until your partner
lets you know you’ve found it.
The clit behaves a lot like the penis—in fact they’re
made from the same tissue during fetal development. Also like
the penis, the clitoris is the main sexual pleasure receptor
for the women and is extremely sensitive; imagine it as the
head of your penis, but condensed into the size of a pea and
bursting with sensation. As you might guess, then, the
clitoris is incredibly sensitive, and is covered by a hood in
order to protect it from direct stimulation. When she is very
aroused, the hood pulls back and sometimes the clitoris can be
directly stimulated. Most women, however, enjoy indirect
stimulation and can have orgasms if you gently, steadily touch
the hood.
Performing Oral Sex on a
Woman
Cunnilingus (the proper term for performing oral sex on
a woman) is one of the most exciting, satisfying tools a man
can use in order to bring a woman to orgasm. Because of the
soft textures inside your mouth and the natural lubrication,
performing oral sex on a woman is almost always pleasurable
and can be used as part of foreplay or as a sex act in
itself.
After you have had adequate foreplay and your partner
appears aroused, begin to kiss the outer skin of her vulva,
teasing her with your lips. Work your way toward the clitoris
and gently, playfully tease it into full arousal. If she
likes, lick the entire length of her lips and insert your
tongue, made stiff, into her vagina. Run it back and forth
from her clitoris to vagina and build in speed and pressure.
If you can, reach up to stimulate her nipples and buttocks,
caressing them while you continue to pleasure her. If she
likes, you may want to reach into her vagina and stimulate her
G-spot while you lick.
Respond to her movements and try to gauge which areas
she most likes to have touched and when. After several minutes
(or more than several minutes) of persistent licking, she will
most likely reach an orgasm. Prepare to pleasure her for at
least 15 minutes. Experiment with different pressure and
patterns with your tongue. See what she likes and drive her
wild.
Foolproof Steps to
Orgasm
Method One Lie between her legs
facing her vulva Slide her vaginal lips far apart Using
your tongue, locate the clitoris and gently lick it in
different directions Insert fingers into her vagina while
you lick her clitoris, stimulating her G-spot.
Method Two Wet two fingers in your
mouth and insert them carefully into her vagina Slide your
fingers from the vagina to her clitoris, dancing all around
the hood Slip your fingers back down into her vagina and
then again onto her clitoris Repeat until she gets close to
an orgasm, at which point focus on the
clitoris
Method Three With an erect
penis, use your hand to slide the head of your penis against
her clit Move your penis head in a circle around the
clitoris Slide the head down toward her vagina but do not
penetrate Repeat until your partners is amply aroused and
wet Finally insert your penis into her vagina and enjoy the
swollen softness
Method Four Tell your partner to
lie as still as possible (you may also want to give her a
blindfold or tell her not to talk) Explain that you’re going
to lick her, but you want her to try as hard as she can not to
have an orgasm. Proceed to pleasure her until she
climaxes
The purpose of delaying an orgasm is to alleviate any
pressure she feels to speed up her pleasure (or fake it). This
technique is especially helpful for women who have trouble
climaxing.
PC Flex for Women
Also known as Kegel exercises, it’s very helpful for
women to strengthen their PC muscles through toning exercises.
Tight PCs can aid in achieving orgasm, reduces incontinence,
strengthens her reproductive system, and aids in healing after
vaginal childbirth. In addition, increased PC muscle tone can
make intercourse pleasurable for both partners.
To do a PC Flex, women start similarly to men: she must
locate the muscle that allows her to stop the flow of urine
while she urinates. To clarify further, she can insert a
finger into her vagina as she contracts the muscle; she should
feel her vagina squeeze around her hand. Once located, she can
select the exercise of her choice.
Squeezing
Exercise Squeeze and hold the PC muscle for 3
seconds and then relax. Repeat the process again and complete
several short sets of 25 each. As with every other muscle,
it’s normal to experience some soreness after a vigorous
workout. Avoid exercising until you feel better.
Tightening Exercise Tighten and
release the PC muscle 10 times. Repeat as desired.
Holding Exercise Completely
contract the PC muscle and hold for 10 seconds. Just before
releasing give the muscle a final intense squeeze and release
for 10 seconds. Repeat as desired.
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