Making the Most of Your Life

An important part of surviving a childhood of incest and physical abuse is to find ways to stay grounded. Something I read from the late, great Erma Bombeck is a piece I always go back to when I need a refresher. If I start to feel sorry about my upbringing, I turn to Erma and realize I have a future to live for.


"If I Had My Life To Live Over"

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending that the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the "good" living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't soil, or was guaranteed to last a life time.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."

There would have been more "I love you's."

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute...look at it and really see it and never give it back.

Stop sweating the small stuff. Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what. Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us. Let's think about what God has blessed us with. And what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, as well as spiritually.

~Erma Bombeck

When Erma wrote this, she was suffering from cancer and only had a short time to live. I am always asked why I fight so hard for children who have been abused. It is because I want everyone to "Make the Most of Their Life" and not lose their childhood. Please help me achieve that goal!

QUOTE OF THE WEEK - February 20 -04

Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.
Albert Camus (attributed)



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