He discovered that his wife used to go out with someone before she got Married
One of my friends just married with a beautiful girl a few
months ago. Before marriage my friend was thinking that he's wife is so
religious and never went out with any guy in her whole life. He was thinking
that his wife has never done anything bad. He really loved her. But after a few
months of marriage he found out that his wife has gone out with someone else and
had boyfriend before marriage. My friend is really upset now.
He really loved her wife and never thought of her like
that. He doesn't love her anymore. He wanted wife like who never went out with
anyone or had boyfriend. He doesnít understand what to do. He's planning to
get divorce. When he asked me for my advice, i couldnít tell him anything
because i have no idea what to say. So, please tell me what should i tell him.
What should he do, next? Should he give divorce to her or forget about her past?
What does islam says about this situation? Thank you,
Praise be to Allaah.
If this woman has mended her ways and has repented to
Allaah and has given up haraam things and going out with men, and there
are no reasons to be suspicious about her, then our advice is that your friend
should keep her and conceal her past mistakes. Whoever conceals a Muslimís
faults, Allaah will conceal his faults in this world and the next. Allaah is
Forgiving and Merciful, He forgives and accepts the repentance of the one who
turns to Him in repentance. So we should be forgiving and should treat the one
who has repented in accordance with the way he is now, and help him to continue
to repent. The one who has repented is like one who has never sinned at all. If
the husband conceals his wifeís past mistakes and treats her well, this will
be of immense benefit in helping this woman adhere to the straight path and
encouraging her to continue living a life of purity and chastity; her husband
will also have a great reward for concealing her faults, keeping her chaste and
helping her to avoid evil and stay on the straight path, living under his care
in a pure atmosphere in the marital home.
If this woman is still persisting in mischief and going out
with men and committing haraam actions, and does not repent despite being
advised to do so, then we do not suggest that he should keep her at all. Let him
get rid of her and Allaah will provide him with another wife.
If she has repented, but he cannot bear what she has done in the past, and he is tormented with bad thoughts that give him sleepless nights, and he is scared that if he keeps her he may mistreat her even though she has repented, then he can divorce her so as to give himself peace of mind and avoid mistreating her. But he should look at the matter anew and think long and hard about the advice we have given here. Let him think about himself too: maybe he has made mistakes in the past, or will do so in the future. We ask Allaah to help him to make the right decision and to guide him to the best way. Allaah is the Source of strength and the Guide to the Straight Path.