Domestic Violence

Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Emotional abuse is often minimized, yet it can leave deep and lasting scars. Noticing and acknowledging the warning signs and symptoms of domestic violence and abuse is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following warning signs and descriptions of abuse, don't hesitate to reach out. There is help available. Understanding domestic violence and abuse You dont have to live in fear: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-787-3224 Domestic abuse, also known as spousal abuse, occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence. Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and one purpose only: to gain and maintain total control over you. An abuser doesn't play fair.Abusers use fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down and keep you under his or her thumb. Your abuser may also threaten you, hurt you, or hurt those around you. Domestic violence and abuse does not discriminate. It happens among heterosexual couples and in same-sex partnerships. It occurs within all age ranges, ethnic backgrounds, and economic levels. And while women are more commonly victimized, men are also abused especially verbally and emotionally. The bottom line is that abusive behavior is never acceptable, whether it's coming from a man, a woman, a teenager, or an older adult. You deserve to feel valued, respected, and safe. Recognizing abuse is the first step to getting help Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to violence. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your self-worth, lead to anxiety and depression, and make you feel helpless and alone. No one should have to endure this kind of pain and your first step to breaking free is recognizing that your situation is abusive. Once you acknowledge the reality of the abusive situation, then you can get the help you need. Signs of an abusive relationship There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most telling sign is fear of your partner. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partners constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-up chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. Other signs that you may be in an abusive relationship include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation. To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below. SIGNS THAT YOU aRE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP Do you: * feel afraid of your partner much of the time? * avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner? * feel that you can't do anything right for your partner? * believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated? * wonder if you're the one who is crazy? * feel emotionally numb or helpless? Does your partner: * humiliate or yell at you? * criticize you and put you down? * treat you so badly that you are embarrassed for your friends or family to see? * ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments? * blame you for his own abusive behavior? * see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person? Your Partners Violent Behavior or Threats, Your Partners Controlling Behavior Does your partner: * have a bad and unpredictable temper? * hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you? * threaten to take your children away or harm them? * threaten to commit suicide if you leave? * force you to have sex? * destroy your belongings? Does your partner: * act excessively jealous and possessive? * control where you go or what you do? * keep you from seeing your friends or family? * limit your access to money, the phone, or the car? * constantly check up on you? Physical abuse and domestic violence When people talk about domestic violence, they are often referring to the physical abuse of a spouse or intimate partner. Physical abuse is the use of physical force against someone in a way that injures or endangers that person. Physical assault or battering is a crime, whether it occurs inside or outside of the family. The police have the power and authority to protect you from physical attack. Sexual abuse is a form of physical abuse Any situation in which you are forced to participate in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity is sexual abuse. Forced sex, even by a spouse or intimate partner with whom you also have consensual sex, is an act of aggression and violence. Furthermore, people whose partners abuse them physically and sexually are at a higher risk of being seriously injured or killed. Source: Breaking the Silence: a Handbook for Victims of Violence in Nebraska Emotional abuse: It's a bigger problem than you think Understanding emotional abuse The aim of emotional abuse is to chip away at your feelings of self-worth and independence. If you're the victim of emotional abuse, you may feel that there is no way out of the relationship or that without your abusive partner you have nothing. Emotional abuse includes verbal abuse such as yelling, name-calling, blaming, and shaming. Isolation, intimidation, and controlling behavior also fall under emotional abuse. Additionally, abusers who use emotional or psychological abuse often throw in threats of physical violence or other repercussions if you don't do what they want. You may think that physical abuse is far worse than emotional abuse, since physical violence can send you to the hospital and leave you with scars. But, the scars of emotional abuse are very real, and they run deep. In fact, emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse sometimes even more so. Economic or financial abuse: A subtle form of emotional abuse Remember, an abusers goal is to control you, and he or she will frequently use money to do so. Economic or financial abuse includes: * Rigidly controlling your finances. * Withholding money or credit cards. * Making you account for every penny you spend. * Withholding basic necessities (food, clothes, medications, shelter). * Restricting you to an allowance. * Preventing you from working or choosing your own career. * Sabotaging your job (making you miss work, calling constantly) * Stealing from you or taking your money. The psychological warning signs of abuse People who are being abused may: * Have very low self-esteem, even if they used to be confident. * Show major personality changes (e.g. an outgoing person becomes withdrawn). * Be depressed, anxious, or suicidal. Speak up if you suspect domestic violence or abuse If you suspect that someone you know is being abused, speak up! If you are hesitating telling yourself that it's none of your business, you might be wrong, or the person might not want to talk about it, keep in mind that expressing your concern will let the person know that you care and may even save his or her life. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! If you need help email me.

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