A human being goes through “stages” of development before reaching maturity.
Each of these stages is programmed into the child just as a computer is programmed or a car is programmed to drive when you step on the gas. There is a set operating system in place. A baby’s operating system, for example, at birth is programmed to cry when hungry and suck when a particular part of the mouth is touched.
Unlike computers or cars, humans are programmed to go on to the next “stage” and drop the “stage” before. We call it learning. Psychologists call it “Stages of Development”.
There are many different types of Developmental Stages such as emotional, cognitive, personality, physical and more. The child goes through these simultaneously.
One cognitive (intellectual) stage of development is the one in which the child realizes that it is an entity in the world. This is a very important concept for you. This is the stage when the child realizes its own being. Achild who does not go through this stage properly or at all could be considered to have a dissociative disease such as Autism.
An example of importance of the stages of development is that of a child with Multiple Personality Disorder. This child had to have been traumatized before the stage at which the personality is fully formed. If the developmental stage inwhich the personality is formed has passed the personality will be damaged but not split. This must happen before the age of four. This is a stage of Personality development. We will deal here with the stage of Cognitive development.
2. Speed of Thought
It is important to understand that we think at an incredible rate of speed. An example of this would be the thought it takes for a simple action like taking a drink from a cup. I will give you an example of the multiple thoughts it takes to drink from a cup.
1. acknowledge thirst or desire to drink2. acknowledge action to remove thirst
3. judging the distance of the cup
4. opening the hand and fingers to the correct position to grasp the cup
5. judging how fast to move your arm
6. judging how far to move your arm
7. closing the fingers the correct amount
8. lifting the cup while judging speed and tightening the grip as needed
9. judging where your lips are in relation to the cup, especially since you can’t see your lips
There is more but you get the idea...And you can do all this while arguing with relatives!
The point is that a thought comes to us at a tremendous rate of speed and often we are not conscious of it until the thought causes us some particular fear or behavior. Then we wonder why we think or feel as we do.
3. Natural State of Being
In accordance with the stages of development the child around the age of four begins to see itself as an entity. They see themselves as a real person. Along with that person comes its hair, feet, face and itself as a boy or girl which is determined by the particular body parts they have. The child must by inate drive and stages of development be in love with itself first thefore it is in love with a being who is of the same gender by the natural state of development.
Considering that homosexuality is a matter of “love” not “sex” as homosexuals will attest to, this makes all the normal hetrosexuals homosexual first by nature and proper development. “Normal” hetrosexuals love someone of the same gender in an intimate way long before they decided to love someone of the opposite gender in an intimate way. Therefore, homosexuality, according to the stages of development, is a natural state of being.
4. Age Four
A child at the age of four is a very incomplete being. An example of that is explained here.
According to stages of cognitive development, if given a tall glass and a short glass then pouring the same amount of water in each, the child will say the tall glass has more water though he saw the same amount being poured into each. The child has not grown to understand volume. The child is still very new.
The child, at the age of four, by developmental nature, has a love for self and that love includes the child’s hair, face and so on including what would be considered gender. The world has to fit the child in the child’s mind because that is the way the child would think.... Unless something happened to change the child’s mind.
5. Perception
Perception is a key word here. At age four a child’s mind should be on things of development unless the child is aware of a problem with the concept of gender and the gender situation. When it comes to gender traits it is the perception of the child as to what traits belong to their gender for the most part. It is the perception of the person that they either subconsciously don’t want to be what their perception of their gender is or that they can’t be what their perception of their gender is. Since it is the natural state of being to love the entity they were given along with the sex with which it comes, then they must love one of their own gender. Themselves, if nothing inhibits that love.
6. For Families
What is being stated here is not an easy concept or task to master. The way you change a multiple personality is to integrate the personalities into the one they originally were. This is absolutely no easy task for the person changing. The make this change can be just as long and tedious a proceedure. For those who are relatives or friends of the homosexual this information is for your understanding only. It is not for you to judge or make decisions for anyone else. For the homosexual this is for your freedom from homosexuality if that is what you want.
7. What To Do
First of all be easy and be kind. Remember that you were too young to be aware of what was happening when this took place. You were only four years old. To change you must make the decision to be the one of your gender that you will love for your life. Just as the person with multiple personalities has to let go of all the personalities and cling to one or the person who marries has to choose one person for life, you have to choose one person also. If in doing so you feel resistance you may want to ask yourself what your perception of your gender is in general, if you like those traits and do those traits accurately portray that gender. You may also want to ask yourself if you can fill those shoes and if not, why not. Or you can just say, now that I know that the state of loving one of one’s own sex is a natural state of being, I really don’t care about what thoughts came to me at age four. I am that entity with its hair and feet and gender that I loved at four and love now.
In summary: Homosexuality is a natural state of being for a four year old. When a thought unknown to the child gets in the way of the child being the entity it is to be in love with, the child must replace that entity with another being because the stage has to be fulfilled. The child has to go through the stage of being in love with someone of their own sex. It is natural a process as going from sucking to eating with a spoon.The problem comes when that “being” they are to be in love with is not or cannot be them.
I hope this brings you happiness and peace.
